Friday, January 9, 2015

Why Motherhood is Like a Casserole by Elaine Mingus

They are hungry...again. With six mouths to feed, nourishing my children can feel like a never-ending task.

I raided the fridge to figure out what I could shovel in their mouths for the umpteenth time that week. I had no dinner plans, but I did have cheese, corn tortillas, ground meat and some leftover beans. Victory! Or at least I hoped.

Depending on the day, my children may or may not decide to "like" one of those ingredients.

With that in mind, I opted against adding a can of salsa for fear that the meal would be shunned because of the tiny slivers of "yucky" vegetables.

Without a recipe, I layered the corn tortillas with the bean/meat/cheese mixture. It was when I was adding a little bit of this and a little bit of that that I realized that motherhood is a lot like my makeshift casserole.

Most of us know the basic ingredients to making a casserole. (If you don't, never fear! There is an easy recipe at the bottom of this post!) We know that what goes in this time might not be exactly what we do next time, but as long as we have most of the right stuff the end result will be tasty.

In the same regard, we've all read books and blogs telling us how to be the "perfect" mom. We spend a majority of our time during many gatherings confessing our motherhood mishaps and receiving well-meaning advice for overcoming our parental obstacles.

When we return to the kitchen of our children's hearts, we are equipped with the recipe for becoming a good mother. But like all the mothers before us, we remember some of the ingredients while accidentally forgetting others.

In essence, when we are in the middle of this mommy thing, we wing it -- just like I did with my casserole.
Being a good mom is exactly like making a good (recipe-less) casserole.
As long as we mostly understand how to raise kids, our children will be successful humans -- each slightly different than the next but wonderful nonetheless.

It's when we leave out key ingredients like love and respect that our children will be seasoned with bitterness and hatred.

So today, don't worry if you haven't added all the right ingredients to being "the perfect mom." You're not required to follow an exact recipe, you just have to get it mostly right!  Just remember that love is like butter...and you can never add too much butter!

  • 2 Cans Beans (do not drain)
  • 1 Lbs. Ground Beef
  • 1 Tablespoon Season All
  • 18 Corn Tortillas
  • 2 Cups Grated Cheese
  1. Brown meat and season with spices
  2. Mix in beans anad heat
  3. Layer casserole dish with corn tortillas alternating meat/bean mixture with layers of tortillas
  4. Top with cheese

Elaine Mingus is a Christian performance poet, blogger, homeschooling mother of many children, & fiction writer who wants to inspire her readers to greater depth in Christ. She is an avid reader, ex-bulimic, ex-heroine addict/drug dealer, wannabe missionary, evangelist, and journalist. Her personal motto is "Changing the World, One Baby at a Time."
Visit her blog:  Super Radical Christian Writer Chick


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  1. What a fun post... and oh so true! As long as we know what the main ingredients are... it will all turn out in the end! (Hint... it's love! It's always love!)

    1. Elaine did a great job pointing us towards loving our kids no matter what we do, didn't she?

  2. My rule when I was rearing my children was to never answer the question - What's for dinner - couldn't take the negativity - someone always complained - so one day I just quit giving out the menu - because like you said someone won't like it - lol
    Debi FEAR NOT/ 2015

    1. Amen, Debra! Too many choices leaves too many opportunities for complaints!

  3. By the way - how in the world did you set up that picture?

    1. My husband is a professional photographer. I told him to grab his camera and take a picture of me and the kids right then and there. I love that picture because no one ever sees my house like that because I always clean up before company comes over, but that was our life in that exact moment and I had to capture it!

  4. The recipe sounds yummy...and love the comparison! Thanks for sharing!

    1. Elaine is a talented writer. I'll pass on this compliment!

  5. SO. TRUE. And a reminder I needed today. There are ingredients you absolutely must have and others you can replace or leave out all together. And sometimes, what you substitute for something else makes it even better!
    My kids go to bed asking me what's for breakfast. ARGH! Leave me alone! LOL

    1. Yes, I needed this reminder today too, Elaine! I love it when my daughter asks what's for snack in the middle of eating breakfast. They are always planning their next meal! Glad I'm not the only one!

  6. Such a great post. Even though I am no longer in the early stages of motherhood I would still love to read the book and see what Elaine has to say. I am sure I can learn something! Thanks for the download.

    1. I will thank her for you! Yes, my youngest is 15 months already so it's very weird to not be in those newborn stages anymore!!